P2s Mind Refreshing MailBox 2026

January 2026s mind refreshing topic

Why, do you think, Males are best suited to raise, represent, and guide boys from 7 years old, on, full time!?

Letters:

Hi P2:

Let’s see if you can guess what I do for a living and what my life has been like from my comments here...

I’m sad to think about the question you pose this month. Not because I don’t think man and boy should be together, and by default of nature itself they are, but because I don’t see any way in the kind of cultural setup we now have, that we CAN. We’re looked at as “out of place” if we actually do care enough to spend personal time with a boy, and simultaneously looked at as being “bad fathers” if we spend too much time anywhere else but with the one woman we had to commit ourselves to and the house that used to be ours, and do the will that she (in her early mothering years) established. Both our culture, its maintaining legalist framework, relentless expectations, AND females’ advising (as if they are representing ALL human emotions, and as if males’ feelings are no different than hers,) that legal framework...USURP taking care of boys as if young males are nothing more than an extension of who she sees as “her children,” mostly because the females in charge... I think you call them RFF (Radical Feminist (emotional) Fascists), are somehow controlling what men come to think and do by raising our boys without men being around so much of the time as to give them any choice of their own, not even when it’s for their own nature’s innately sensed MALE help!

Even when boys WANT to live with their Dads... especially in cases of divorce... most women SPITEFULLY take over the son’s life and make it look like they are “protecting” them from the “bad man” who “let them down,” when all she is doing is using the boy as a proxy to attack the former husband she wants to attack, and misrepresents by calling herself the only one who can be “responsible” for the boy, because the husband “won’t”, but only she (supposedly) knows how to do emotionally... which is enough to make grown men cry...not only from missing their sons, but from not knowing who to blame, and feeling there is no place for real males in this kind of world at all... many just plain giving up trying to find why males are so locked out of positive lives!

Long story short, and I hope you will do this subject some justice in your reply to this letter, which I’ll be looking for til you do... I have no doubt that men and boys belong with each other, but since both our culture and women have so many other “obligations” for us, which focus us away from our own male youth, and the many relationships we could have with them if we had OUR interests represented in the legal and women’s minds who comprise that world of separation all around us, we think we have to appease the women and state, as misinformed about who we really are as males as they are, in order to get any use of our Male Eros at all! It would seem, sir, that they both have the modern male “by our balls” so to speak.

Please say something to cheer us up...

     DD... Daniel, feeling a bit depressed here!

#2

HI P2!

I’m a father of 4 (2 boys, 8 and 12; and 2 girls 13 and 6), and have been married for 14 years. I’m an auto worker who gets good pay to take my place on an assembly line, and keep things moving, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. While the company I work for has no provision for allowing any of my children to come to work with me, I have to ask you, "How could they?!"  Even if they did let me bring my 12 and 8 year old boys, I’d have concerns about their safety because I would be fully occupied (and unable to even regard or speak to them until my line stopped, and I was finished with my continuing place in keeping the line progressing). For long periods of time at a time, there is no responsible way I can bring my boys, or even communicate with them, even if their schools allowed it, unless maybe the company let them watch from a glass covered balcony above somehow. I think they would get bored without my continual interaction with them. I do believe we could all START the process of bringing our boys into our adult male lives more and more, but that it would take a lot of discussion, agreement, planning, preparations and cooperation; none of which we have at this time for my kind of job or even most kind of adult centered male activities. Self employed men might be the best place to start, and, based on their success... more employers might be convinced it can be workable.

There are some men who can easily do computer call center type work at home, and still take care of their kids, but they should be of an age where they are ready to accept an invitation to spend good chunks of time watching and learning, and focusing their minds to, even while they are at home. Yet, even that doesn’t get to the core idea I think you are trying to share here... that at a certain stage of a boy’s development, he WANTS to be with his Dad, and enjoys the company of older males, and wants to show his interest and ability to be of help to them, often because of what he can learn from them, but also because of the various benefits that sharing our male lives together, especially young and old, can give us both, emotionally as males.

My wife would laugh at the very idea of having my boys with me all the time, and I do think SHE is better equipped and suited to take care of the babies and very young children, WHILE that is the stage of development they are at, which as you mention is actually fulfilled by about age 7 if not before. So, despite the fact that our current cultural narrative has been pulled so deeply into consumerism and radical feminist wishes, I DO think you are right... I mean, my partaking in current cultural assumptive meanings has me thinking of my boys as “my wife’s children” and therefore, “her responsibility,” but the more I think about it now, the more I realize, all too frustratedly, that both my boys and I are missing something crucial between ourselves... the affirmation of our male circulatory experience and MALE feelings relating, by accepting their mothers assumptive perception that boys are somehow their mother’s "possession" ... HER “children!”

I do wish my boys and I had a much closer relationship... after all, we do share the same DNA! But more than that I also find myself attracted at times to help other boys who look up to me. (I do still coach a boy’s 5th grade basketball team from having started to with my oldest son, and found it unexpectedly rewarding) I seem attracted to help those boys in many ways that I just assume my wife has already accomplished for my own boys. I can sense the needs, wants, and desires of many of the boys on the team and am good friends with many of them. I answer questions and provide feedback about both their progress and lack of it... suggesting exercises and even pairing some with others who are already accomplished, creating close friendships for them in the process. There are a few boys from single families who see me as a father figure, and I don’t mind reacting with positive older male support for them when they reach out to me. Yet I think you are getting at even more than just that... something only the ancient cultures knew and lived together, by being active parts of their everyday lives and sharing the many feelings of life without compartmentalizing them into categories of “propriety.”

Despite the fact that my family is “normal” in the cultural sense, and both my wife and I are on good terms, my children get most of their home-centered needs met and advice given from my wife, and I just sort of act as a back up when she needs more help, or the kids need stronger supervision. I guess it’s more because they started life looking to her TO provide for all they needed, and without the expectation that I should after a certain time or level, they really are in a kind of limbo of motherly dependence. I WOULD like to take responsibility directly and personally with my boys, but there never seems to be any “right time” or place to change from what they have become quasi-comfortable with already.

I have tried to encourage my boys to come to ME more and more, as they grew, but we always “found ourselves on differing schedules” and their mother in the best position to get them off to school after I had already had breakfast and was off to work as my early schedule required. Yet, even though boys need their mothers KIND of care less and less... for everything... and more and more of the MALE kind, inversely, the older they get, society keeps on with the red flags preventing all male's closeness!  WHY P2?                    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Why not just say that, as soon as a boy is ready... somewhere between 5 and 9, that men could begin to invite boys into their lives, including bringing boys to work with them (and, in fact, make the accommodating of that in the workplace a bargaining point for whether we take a job with that employer or not) Men could even form groups sharing their experience and suggestions and share them together (we are all a community of males, we just don’t seem to relate like it in the kind of world we live in... but could). Obviously such a sharing would need the understanding and cooperation of employers everywhere, but that’s where us coming together in discussion and sharing groups with other guys and their boys would really help. And we would all have our everyday lives more in common as males, once again if we did. We need to form grass-roots organizing so we could have a political voice in our communities which would encourage businesses to make provisions for boys to be with their dads at work. But until we can organize ourselves... either online or at our churches or schools or with neighbors in our neighborhoods, I don’t think that your statement, as true as it actually is in its essential sense... would be recognized as feasible by the masses who would see it as too hard to do.

Thanks again P2, and keep up the good work you’re doing to help all males get back in touch with their genuinely MALE identities! I think you’re really ahead of our time, and look forward to the time when boys WILL start getting the BOYS RIGHTS they have lost with no one to stand up for them and truly represent their male feelings and concerns. If you can, please help the rest of us caring males figure out how to get where your mind is... give us some workable small things we can do, because if I came all out in support of your idea, as good as it sounds, I suspect it would bring more derision to my family and I than approval and encouragement.

                             BBC (Barry (an extracurricular) Basketball Coach), seeking societal understanding

Plato the Second's reply:

#2

Hi Barry. Thanks for your thoughts on this critical boy issue. Please consider the reply I gave Danny D, above, as relevant to your concerns, simultaneously, as well. I hope you will be able to adjust your nick name, to make all boys you feel a personality complementation for and with, part of your LIFE team! See if my suggestion at the bottom of this page, might ring true for you!

To answer your question (letter column) : Society has not  recognized the difference between the kind of loving feelings life gives women to keep new life alive (shielding FROM the outside world) to the kind of loving feelings life gives Males to relate, connect, and extend humanity all over (connective TO the outside world).

          I do believe regardless of culture's dismissing of male love, that life MADE us as males to genuinely care about younger males growth and development... something that no one else seems to realize how much sense it would make to let boys spend AT LEAST a half a day with older males every day, like we used to from time immemorial before the current social order  narrative took over.

           As you alluded to, Boys and men seem to have meant more to each other in the past, yet after all that time since, Fathering today has deteriorated to  just being a matter of steering EITHER boys or girls into the societal pathway of expectations, by helping them obey their mothers at home, or (usually) female teachers at school, as they explore their (multiple choice type) options there.  Note here that "molesting" usually means departing from society's intended path, not hurting per se, even in court, though most people think it means hurting a helpless "child."

       Boys NEED someone who understands who they are, what they think and how they feel, but all they get is direction from women with a different instinct for different stages of life support, and different interests, than boys of 7, on, often making them even more perplexed, or causing them to make mistaken choices which end up working against their own MALE welfare which process is actually not only MOLESTING the path which LIFE designed boys to follow, with older males in sync with their instinct and feeling for them, but TAMPERING with the balance of life itself to the point of making people see others in our human family more as "strangers" than friends we haven't met yet!

BBC (Barry the Boy Coach) for MALE life nature, seeking a societal place to develop our male fuller GOOD MALE nature, not ignore it any more!   See scene depicted (Feb) for normal BBC relating!

Dear Friend Danny:

Thank you for being so poignantly honest. It’s most probably where we have to start to make the Truth of the statement for this month’s mind-refreshing mailbox topic more apparent. I had hoped to receive more letters from men and boys who were already happily involved in each others lives, but I guess I might have been a bit ahead of the time I am trying to speak to and for. This is something most of us feel inside, but have lost touch with, diverted by other’s interests for us, and, as you pointed out, overwhelmed by women who raise boys to spite and belittle us, and blame us for not taking better care of boys (tacitly females themselves), when it is THEY who are making it impossible for us to do so! (though most women probably don't understand how!)

       The philosophical problem to unravel here, and  may take philosophical minds to appreciate, is that on the one hand the human male has a whole emotional MALE range of dynamic and polarity reactions, from the most tender to the most aggressive, but has only been specialized to use the negative side of.  Fighter, Enforcer, "Winner," Disciplinarian, Conqueror... they all depend on the negative reward system of adrenaline rush, with an "obey or be punished" finality, which could be described as the male DARK SIDE. Imagine movies like the original Star Wars.  Luke Skywalker  had a good heart, but the world he found himself near destroyed by, required him to attack an enemy he eventually found out to be his very (unknown) father.  That father only knew the negative side.  Luke knew both sides, but became trapped in reacting to the violence that those on the Dark side thought of as giving meaning to their loveless lives.  That some women mistakenly have only experienced the Dark Side of male emotions, and the negative side of "sexuality" has led them to suspect ANY male intimacy... and, once  they have the power of millions of women  behind them, as the RFF have for the last 50 years, they treat ALL males as if every loving thing we try to do (outside of one woman we are told we must marry to get permission at all) can only be negative in meaning.  

     If boys are trapped in reacting to what is to them a loveless Male existence, then they only learn and practice the negative side of their feelings, and never learn the loving side which requires their Phase II, Male Nature Nurturing genuine intimacy to fathom and live from.  But, sadly, even when some boys manage to extricate themselves FROM the expectations of negativity all around them, they cannot receive support, let alone transmit the loving patterns and feelings, meanings and expectations that the POSITIVE polaritied male is trying to live and share, without being misunderstood as trying to overpower. 

          Hence the good of loving older males who DO reach out to share their lives, personally, with boys of all ages as part of their WHOLE-Y male identity, is immediately MISinterpreted as a "red flag" which may indeed identify the path of a NEGATIVELY specialized male, but not only ignores the different meaning of the same touching behavior when it's in a positive emotional dynamic polarity, but teaches her children and misinforms legislatures everywhere to ATTACK even YOU, Danny, because they see your Male Eros as having no place but reproductive function, and thus PREVENTS boys from even knowing, let alone experiencing How MALE Nature Nurturing Eros appreciation in a Holy Spirit CHANGES Male polarity of emotional expression and meaning to positive and desirable.

Now, to intuit your challenge, my friend... I would guess you are a factory worker by career, a former family man with at least one son, but now divorced and without custody of your boy. A boy who wanted to come with you, but wasn’t given legal support to, and now grows further and further away from you, only hearing his mothers feelings on the subject, and without the balance of a happy life with you he could have had, because his mom took over his whole life, forced the law to support her with half-truth reasons, and left you without any contact with boys... in a dystopian emotional world in which you do as you are told, or end up being called, and feeling like, a “loser.” So much so that you probably have given up relating to your biological son, and regret the day you ever got married... causing you to give up women and ignore boys.

      Another movie you should watch, Danny,  is "The Tender Bar",  a movie not only covered as Movie Munication #7 in The MALE Solution to the CMD*..., but offered on Amazon Prime TV.  If you fathom it deeply enough, as the MNN relevancy notes in V1B1 leads you to uncovering, you will see a very similar circumstance to the one you mention about spiteful women, and the way they manipulate boys to prevent them from even seeing that their DNA father DOES love them, because she is so busy trying to prove that his behavior is the most unloving thing she has ever seen as a female (but not understanding that male love is not designed for the mission that females have)... not only is preventing the boy from realizing he WAS loved by the Father, as the male youth he was, in male freedom, but thus causing him to give up on his Father as his mother's constant innuendo against him portrayed, without ever being allowed close enough to him to understand how MALE feelings need to be understood not blindly demonized; leading to his taking sides against him. All while the Father, robbed of any loving feelings by the women in his life, lashes out at a current wife who doesn't deserve his wrath, in an equal dose of misunderstanding what love means in its FEMALE design and mission. Thus the son assumes, once he sees it, to be what his Mother made his Father seem to be,  turning him into the despicable person he wasn't, before she manipulated the boy to not only see her view of his Father, but to make it "come true!" ...

    Please understand that we could actually be undergoing an evolutionary contingency that needs to be worked out, worldwide, because of females getting the power they have today, sooner than they could see the whole male identity, and thus needing to be understood more fully BEFORE the truly Platonically Male Eros sharing MNN relationships I am alluding to, can be recognized as the friendly and controllable Phase II, which boys need to be loving males themselves, but our current cultures and narratives haven't even recognized as existing yet... it's inside us, dormant and waiting to be recognized and reacted with... Which may indeed be why the wheat of positive polaritied males who reach out to help boys be a real part of their everyday lives, gets mistaken for negatively polaritied males just trying to overpower them, like they do everyone else... to get adrenaline rush feeling to replace the loving feelings they have been deprived of developing. I Invite those males who would like to make this a better world, emotionally, for males of all ages to live together in, and those who have some ideas on just what steps they think we need to take, and how to go about sharing this unfulfilled Male destiny, to come back with me... yes in my books, of course, but here too with some writings of yours, dear readers, on how YOU think we can support our own GOOD Male Instinct, it’s GOOD MALE Eros enhancing of affection based real love, and helping create a society that can see the whole range of both Male and female emotional responses to the emotional environments we find ourselves in. And thus, what we need to do to help create such a socially understood humane Male Nature including, narrative and expectations, from which men can once again share their lives, in real time with boys, hungry to belong to the community of GOOD Males, and prove their value, as male.

I further  invite you to begin by considering just what life was like... when we could be our own male selves... as I have, by going back to Plato himself, and working to realize how men and boys related when there was no state or women to interfere. Our natural Male lives and reactions, able to express themselves in empathetic sync, with each other.

This is not to say that culture today is unnatural, but it is to say that there are may ways culture and civilization itself can be programed. History shows that no one group ever stays in “power” very long, historically speaking. We can thank cultures for many of the technological advancements we enjoy today, but we need to understand that the current organization or “order” we are living, needs to refine itself, and our social narrative, by going back to see just where it diverged from letting men and boys be themselves, to power the social engine by his positively felt circulatory benefit, than shutting that down to accommodate female stationary comfort, instead. And even that said, there should always be a place for women too, but males need to better understand  that when women become so consumed with themselves (See “Alexander”) that women are a slave to their passions, that no matter what the environment around them, women will ALWAYS put themselves, by the nature of their very female instinct and motivation to invite new life and help it survive,  ahead of us, FROM HER mission.

Probably the very first step is to help each other as males realize what we are missing, as a result,  then help our culture understand too, so that we can refine the social narrative that relentlessly forms and shapes our minds and potentials before we even get a chance to think about them, otherwise, ourselves! Male identity is CIRCULATORY, NOT aggressive. But tied to the kind of reaction expected of us. Still, the more Platonically Eros filled friendly and loving an environment we can help create, in boys, the more platonically Eros filled friendly and loving will our humanity be.

The WHY(of Jan's topic)is that the child is the father of the man (in our case, the boy's raising, the precursor to who the man he becomes, IS)

The HOW to begin, for those who BELIEVE in  the GOOD of Holy Spirit guided MALE Eros affection based Phase II MNN, despite current appearances to the contrary, is what we will make our FEB monthly letter topic to discuss.

A better Male Optimizaton of our Male experience of Life is on the horizon, with a new narrative that includes our HONEST MALE feelings this time! ...

.. But If we males don't work to build a better MALE experience of life for ourselves NOW, who else will? ... THIS may be our last chance for quite a while! Once AI starts looking to females for emotional definitions, instead of us too, the bias of their Female instinct feelings, well intentioned or not, will drown ours, and our real interests, with them   ... Ad Infinitum ...

Sincerely...

Plato, The Second

February 2026s mind refreshing topic

HOW can boys choose to let older Males begin raising, representing, and guiding them from @7, meaningfully, again?!?

P2s Mind Refreshing MailBox 2026